There is No Such Thing As Mr. Perfect

September 22, 2026 by Andrew Small No Comments

I found the following comment on the post Law of Attraction in Action and will address it here:

I am also quite fussy in choosing the right clothes, right college and now right person to date….ok I have lot of years still to meet Mr.
Perfect!…I have finished college and am now working in the corporate world and earning cool money but I am lonely at the end of the day! …
And Boy! What all I have done to meet that Mr. Perfect…tried Facebook, MySpace, Match.com, but somehow in the end its always that I end up thinking that he is not good enough for me…Of late I have started using another site – as I heard that it’s much better to help meet Mr. Perfect…so let’s see what it does…

I sometimes hate myself to be so damn choosy…but I am like that since birth…I seek perfection …what should I do?

-Choosy

Dear Choosy-

First off, stop hating yourself. Hating yourself always leads to making bad choices, which in your case may mean isolating yourself from people and experiences that might make you happy.

Or, it may not. It’s entirely possible you’re not ready for a relationship. As you said, you’re young. Guess what? Today people marry later. A lot of us want to finish our educations and establish ourselves in careers before we bind ourselves to another human for life. This can be a good thing. Educated and financially sound people enjoy a lower divorce rate than their less educated and wealthy counterparts (please see the video below for more on this).

Now, you say you seek perfection, and you’ve scoured almost every available Internet source in search of it. But guess what? No man is perfect. I’m not perfect. You’re not perfect. It’s not fair to expect perfection from another human being.

Sure, it’s wise to know what you want in a man. Presumably, you want someone honest, kind, who values education as you do, and so on. Perhaps you also want someone who’s funny because life, as I don’t have to tell you, has its ups and downs, and we all need a laugh to get us through the bad times.

So, know what you want and don’t settle for anything less. For example, if you want a kind man, don’t settle for a guy who gets in the elevator and bangs the CLOSE button 10 times so he doesn’t have to wait for the old lady humping along with a walker. Don’t settle for a guy who lies or makes you wait in restaurants for him or doesn’t call when he says he will.

But don’t expect that the right man will never have a bad day, that he’ll say or do the right thing in every situation, or that he’ll look sharp when he’s come down with a bad cold. Seek a man who you can love who’ll love you and make your happiness a priority. Seek a best friend to whom you can be a best friend.

Treat others as you would have them treat you, and only hold them to the standards you can hold yourself. Again, not one of us is perfect. To pretend otherwise will only prevent you from enjoying life and the people who make it interesting.

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