Don’t Trust Your Instincts
A few weeks back, one of my favorite game bloggers wrote what is, quite possibly, the most brilliant take on an untouched game topic that I think I’ve ever read. Today, I’m going to write a follow up.
Behind the scenes, what you guys didn’t see, was a skype meeting between this gentleman and myself, a few email exchanges, and a good number of text messages. We devised a plan to snag him a cute girl he’s acquainted with that he has taken a liking to. I know what some of you are thinking: Put the pussy on a pedestal and you’ll never get it – the moment you focus your attentions on a single girl and start worrying about getting her and just her, you’ve lost her. I’m pretty good at this, though, so we went ahead and worked out the following evil strategy:
Spend a week flirting with her, ramping up kino, and teasing. Let her start to throw serious IOIs (which she began doing).
Let her hold her tension for a bit, wondering if/when you’ll move.
Before the weekend, in front of everyone (at least that she’s friends with), approach her and say, “Hey, I know you have a huge crush on me so I wrote you this secret note.” and hand her a note that reads, exactly:
Roses are red.
Violets are blue.
I suck at poems.
Let’s get coffee on Tuesday.
I sent a text to our awesome player in the making today over lunch,
Alpha: How goes things with our lady?
[DYP]: I haven’t asked her yet, my instincts were going haywire and it felt like a bad time. […]
Let’s talk about this for a minute.
I’ll never forget some of the best sales training I’ve gotten. I was in a rather cut throat industry and our sales model reflected it. It was, next to door – to – door, one of the hardest ways to sell anything – let alone the shit I was peddling. I had a manager pull me aside and tell me to push back on my customers. Be firm and stand my ground with them – don’t take no for an answer. “You can be firm without being rude.” This has been reiterated to me in my current position, with my superior telling me the other day that there is nothing wrong with deciding not to do business with a customer.
When I first got into sales, my instincts told me to spend my time on every customer I could get my hands on. That was how I’d make sales and thus make money, right? Spend time with a shit load of customers, hopefully the conversion rate isn’t too lousy and I’ll snag a couple sales a week and make an all right living for myself.
My boss’s point at the time, and my current supervisor’s point, is that you don’t need to waste your time on low-converting leads and instead spend your energies on leads that will actually convert to sales.
I made a conscious decision to trust my boss’s instincts.
The reason being, I had no sales experience at the time. My boss had years of experience. My instincts meant nothing to me in that position.
I think it would benefit a lot of you to realize that your instincts when it comes to women – especially if you’re really new to game – are probably wrong. Now, if you’re a game vet with a few notches, trust yourself; I’m not talking to you. If, however, you haven’t gotten your first post-game notch, I want you to realize that you need to trust the instincts of the guys you’re learning from. Heartist knows what he’s talking about – trust his instincts over yours! Roosh knows what he’s talking about; VK, Fly Fresh and Young, Private Man, Professors Mentu and Ashur, and yours truly – we know what we’re talking about. Trust our instincts over yours.
Your instincts, you need to realize, are built on years of beta supplication and romantic comedy misthinking. Roissy’s instincts have been fine tuned by countless lays over more than a decade of womanizing.
Until you’ve really gotten your feet under you and can actually visualize the female thought process, calling the shots accurately before they happen, your instincts aren’t as developed as they need to be in order for you to fully trust them. Instead, trust our instincts which tell you to never chicken out, always push for the bang, and don’t be afraid to feign disinterest every once in a while. You’ll never lose her by not texting her or by offering a funny, non-serious answer to a serious question. You will lose her by being needy and gay. Both of which are turn offs.
So go out there and trust the advice you’ve been given and read on these blogs and in books. Success is simply emulating successful people – we wont steer you wrong.
… And you thought I wasn’t going to post today.
Read More At:
Strong Empowered Women – The Alpha Female Myth
Why NOT going on Dates is the easiest way to get a girlfriend
Rejection: It weeds out the weak or the weakness in you
Do It Like Grandad: Toss A Bitch Edition
Desperate, Beta, Want To Cuddle?