Should I Let My Man See Other Women Since We Live In Different States?
I have been up and down about this lately, and each time I ask advice on what to do, I tend to go with the advice that justifies my decision. My boyfriend and I met via facebook last December. After making it official in July, He revealed to me some months later that he was still having platonic sex with other women, and will continue to do so until I am next to him. Bear in mind that, I have yet to hold my man’s hand or even smell him because he lives in NY and I in Florida. We are always on the phone and on occasion, Ovoo. His defense is that he is a man. I was extremely upset and felt real stupid, because this is a new avenue for me, and I was seriously trying to make it work.
My first question is:
Should I accept the fact that he is sleeping with other women until I eventually move to NY?
2nd question:
Am I stupid to have even accepted being his gf in the first place when he lives in NY?
I look forward to your views on this.
Signed
Is This Right?
Dear Is This Right,
You have to be the one to determine what you can handle in a relationship. I tell women this all the time. Even my close girlfriends when they ask me for advice on men. What I tolerate from my man may be completely out of the question for you from your man. Only you know if you are comfortable with him seeing other women. Do I think you should ever give your man permission to cheat? No. However, I do understand that he may be lonely, and miss female attention since you two are apart as you might miss male companionship. I think that if you are going to give him permission to date and have sex with other women then you might as well have an open relationship. That way, you are free to do what you want with whomever and so is he. If you two decide you want to be serious and move to the same state as one another then you can have a monogamous relationship. I do not think you are stupid for agreeing to be his girlfriend but I do not think it is not wise since you two have never even been in the same room. You don’t know this man and you don’t know if you want to be with only him.
You stated two have never met one another face to face and that your interactions have been strictly online. I know that we are in a new age time of technology but I still prefer the face to face interaction in a relationship. In other words, I would not hold him accountable to being faithful until you two were together. However, I would also date if I were you as well. What is good for him is good for you as well. If you two had have already met one another, or traveled back and forth on a regular to see one another then I would not suggest this. You would have a foundation for the relationship. But because you two have never even been in the same room and have no idea if you will even have chemistry, or how serious you will become, I would not put all my faith into this relationship yet. I also would not suggest that you move out to be with him until you have visited him a few times and him you.
You have to protect yourself and your heart.
Read Also :
We Shouldn’t Go To Church Together Anymore
Please, A Moratorium on Pole Dancing and Fellatio Classes
To The Women of Applebee’s And Five Other Blue Collarettes
The Five Times I Prefer Not To Have Sex